Hello, generally speaking, there're two ways to customize a Control's look.
First, set the various properties, if available. For example, with DataGrid, you can set RowBackground and AlternatingRowBackground to customize the rows' background, and set HeadersVisibility to Column so that only columns will display headers. You can find all those properties in Blend.
<Data:DataGrid RowBackground="#FFEFEFEF" AlternatingRowBackground="#FFEFEFEF" HeadersVisibility="Column">
Second, you can create ControlTemplates wrapped in Styles to completely change a Control's look. Unfortunately, Blend March Preview doesn't allow you to edit ControlTemplates via the designer interface, so you'll have to manually write XAML (in a future version this feature is likely to be added). Here's a simple sample for DataGridColumnHeader's ControlTemplate:
<Style x:Key="columnHeaderStyle" TargetType="Data:DataGridColumnHeader">
<Setter Property="Template">
<Setter.Value>
<ControlTemplate TargetType="Data:DataGridColumnHeader">
<Grid Name="RootElement" Background="#FFCC0033">
<Grid.RowDefinitions>
<RowDefinition Height="*" />
<RowDefinition Height="*" />
<RowDefinition Height="Auto" />
</Grid.RowDefinitions>
<Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<ColumnDefinition Width="*" />
<ColumnDefinition Width="Auto" />
</Grid.ColumnDefinitions>
<Line Stretch="Fill" Grid.Row="2" Grid.ColumnSpan="2" X1="0" X2="1" Y1="0" Y2="0" StrokeThickness="1" Stroke="#FF000000" />
<Line Stretch="Fill" Grid.RowSpan="2" Grid.Column="1" X1="0" X2="0" Y1="0" Y2="1" StrokeThickness="1" Stroke="#FF000000" Visibility="{TemplateBinding SeparatorVisibility}" />
<ContentPresenter Content="{TemplateBinding Content}" Margin="3,0,3,0" Foreground="White" Grid.RowSpan="2" VerticalAlignment="Center"/>
</Grid>
</ControlTemplate>
</Setter.Value>
</Setter>
</Style>
To use this template, in your DataGrid, you can set the ColumnHeaderStyle property to the above Style.
<Data:DataGrid RowBackground="#FFEFEFEF" AlternatingRowBackground="#FFEFEFEF" ColumnHeaderStyle="{StaticResource columnHeaderStyle}" HeadersVisibility="Column">
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